Usage of the phrase “I clutched my pearls”, esp. for males?
I came across with a phrase, “clutch one’s pearls” in the headline of the Hill (January 6).
It reads :
“Dem lawmaker: ‘Kind of odd’ for GOP to be ‘clutching their pearls’
over profane call to impeach Trump” and followed by the following
paragraph: Rep. David Cicilline (D-R.I) on Sunday scoffed at the
controversy surrounding Rep. Rashida Tlaib’s (D-Mich.) profane vow to
impeach President Trump, accusing Republicans critical of the freshman
lawmaker’s comment of hypocrisy.
I was unfamiliar with the phrase, “clutch one’s pearls,” and I found the definition of
“clutch your pearls” in Cambridge Dictionary as follows:
Disapproving to behave as if you are very shocked, especially when you show more shock than you really feel in order to show that you think something is morally bad.
Google Ngram doesn’t accommodate neither clutch your pearls or one’s pearls.
So my questions:
From around what time this phrase started to be in use?
What is the origin of this phrase?
- Is it a popular phrase?
- Can a man – males seldom wear a pearl necklace - use this phrase in such a way as, “I clutched my pearls when I heard Tom was fired from his office yesterday”?
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I came across with a phrase, “clutch one’s pearls” in the headline of the Hill (January 6).
It reads :
“Dem lawmaker: ‘Kind of odd’ for GOP to be ‘clutching their pearls’
over profane call to impeach Trump” and followed by the following
paragraph: Rep. David Cicilline (D-R.I) on Sunday scoffed at the
controversy surrounding Rep. Rashida Tlaib’s (D-Mich.) profane vow to
impeach President Trump, accusing Republicans critical of the freshman
lawmaker’s comment of hypocrisy.
I was unfamiliar with the phrase, “clutch one’s pearls,” and I found the definition of
“clutch your pearls” in Cambridge Dictionary as follows:
Disapproving to behave as if you are very shocked, especially when you show more shock than you really feel in order to show that you think something is morally bad.
Google Ngram doesn’t accommodate neither clutch your pearls or one’s pearls.
So my questions:
From around what time this phrase started to be in use?
What is the origin of this phrase?
- Is it a popular phrase?
- Can a man – males seldom wear a pearl necklace - use this phrase in such a way as, “I clutched my pearls when I heard Tom was fired from his office yesterday”?
etymology idioms phrase-usage
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I don't think anybody would say "I clutched my pearls". It is one of those expressions which convey a judgment on the person said to be doing it .
– Colin Fine
yesterday
6
Neither men nor women would be likely to ever say, “I clutched my pearls when…”: this expression is exclusively (or at least almost exclusively) used in progressive or non-finite constructions. It’s also more used to describe other people than oneself because it’s somewhat belittling. You might hear, “Tom getting fired had Sheila clutching her pearls”. You might also hear it used to describe a man, though it tends to carry sexist overtones then: its pejorativeness makes it imply that he’s weak/over-sensitive/anything else stereotypically seen as negative female traits.
– Janus Bahs Jacquet
yesterday
1
I am male and there was at least one occasion when I should have said it. A friend of mine was working for the designer, Vivienne Westwood and he had a lot of her jewelry at his place. One day I picked up a necklace featuring 12 drop pearls and 12 drop garnets and we popped across the street to the French bakery to buy some bread. The woman at the counter took one look at me in my pearls and quipped to her colleague - "Peut-etre il part au grand voyage". Now if that's not grounds for clutching ones pearls, then tell me what is.
– UserEpsilon
yesterday
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@UserEpsilon Yes, well, I fail to see how this adds anything here. Why would going on a long journey mean you wear your pearls? I guess in the old days people went on ocean voyages, and in first class wore all their finery. The baker's quip in no way implied she was looking to grab them....so why would you clutch them?
– Lambie
yesterday
2
Generally, one says this of others. Especially, men about men. It's like in the armed services where the sergeants call the soldiers "ladies". Same idea.
– Lambie
yesterday
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I came across with a phrase, “clutch one’s pearls” in the headline of the Hill (January 6).
It reads :
“Dem lawmaker: ‘Kind of odd’ for GOP to be ‘clutching their pearls’
over profane call to impeach Trump” and followed by the following
paragraph: Rep. David Cicilline (D-R.I) on Sunday scoffed at the
controversy surrounding Rep. Rashida Tlaib’s (D-Mich.) profane vow to
impeach President Trump, accusing Republicans critical of the freshman
lawmaker’s comment of hypocrisy.
I was unfamiliar with the phrase, “clutch one’s pearls,” and I found the definition of
“clutch your pearls” in Cambridge Dictionary as follows:
Disapproving to behave as if you are very shocked, especially when you show more shock than you really feel in order to show that you think something is morally bad.
Google Ngram doesn’t accommodate neither clutch your pearls or one’s pearls.
So my questions:
From around what time this phrase started to be in use?
What is the origin of this phrase?
- Is it a popular phrase?
- Can a man – males seldom wear a pearl necklace - use this phrase in such a way as, “I clutched my pearls when I heard Tom was fired from his office yesterday”?
etymology idioms phrase-usage
I came across with a phrase, “clutch one’s pearls” in the headline of the Hill (January 6).
It reads :
“Dem lawmaker: ‘Kind of odd’ for GOP to be ‘clutching their pearls’
over profane call to impeach Trump” and followed by the following
paragraph: Rep. David Cicilline (D-R.I) on Sunday scoffed at the
controversy surrounding Rep. Rashida Tlaib’s (D-Mich.) profane vow to
impeach President Trump, accusing Republicans critical of the freshman
lawmaker’s comment of hypocrisy.
I was unfamiliar with the phrase, “clutch one’s pearls,” and I found the definition of
“clutch your pearls” in Cambridge Dictionary as follows:
Disapproving to behave as if you are very shocked, especially when you show more shock than you really feel in order to show that you think something is morally bad.
Google Ngram doesn’t accommodate neither clutch your pearls or one’s pearls.
So my questions:
From around what time this phrase started to be in use?
What is the origin of this phrase?
- Is it a popular phrase?
- Can a man – males seldom wear a pearl necklace - use this phrase in such a way as, “I clutched my pearls when I heard Tom was fired from his office yesterday”?
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I don't think anybody would say "I clutched my pearls". It is one of those expressions which convey a judgment on the person said to be doing it .
– Colin Fine
yesterday
6
Neither men nor women would be likely to ever say, “I clutched my pearls when…”: this expression is exclusively (or at least almost exclusively) used in progressive or non-finite constructions. It’s also more used to describe other people than oneself because it’s somewhat belittling. You might hear, “Tom getting fired had Sheila clutching her pearls”. You might also hear it used to describe a man, though it tends to carry sexist overtones then: its pejorativeness makes it imply that he’s weak/over-sensitive/anything else stereotypically seen as negative female traits.
– Janus Bahs Jacquet
yesterday
1
I am male and there was at least one occasion when I should have said it. A friend of mine was working for the designer, Vivienne Westwood and he had a lot of her jewelry at his place. One day I picked up a necklace featuring 12 drop pearls and 12 drop garnets and we popped across the street to the French bakery to buy some bread. The woman at the counter took one look at me in my pearls and quipped to her colleague - "Peut-etre il part au grand voyage". Now if that's not grounds for clutching ones pearls, then tell me what is.
– UserEpsilon
yesterday
2
@UserEpsilon Yes, well, I fail to see how this adds anything here. Why would going on a long journey mean you wear your pearls? I guess in the old days people went on ocean voyages, and in first class wore all their finery. The baker's quip in no way implied she was looking to grab them....so why would you clutch them?
– Lambie
yesterday
2
Generally, one says this of others. Especially, men about men. It's like in the armed services where the sergeants call the soldiers "ladies". Same idea.
– Lambie
yesterday
|
show 3 more comments
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I don't think anybody would say "I clutched my pearls". It is one of those expressions which convey a judgment on the person said to be doing it .
– Colin Fine
yesterday
6
Neither men nor women would be likely to ever say, “I clutched my pearls when…”: this expression is exclusively (or at least almost exclusively) used in progressive or non-finite constructions. It’s also more used to describe other people than oneself because it’s somewhat belittling. You might hear, “Tom getting fired had Sheila clutching her pearls”. You might also hear it used to describe a man, though it tends to carry sexist overtones then: its pejorativeness makes it imply that he’s weak/over-sensitive/anything else stereotypically seen as negative female traits.
– Janus Bahs Jacquet
yesterday
1
I am male and there was at least one occasion when I should have said it. A friend of mine was working for the designer, Vivienne Westwood and he had a lot of her jewelry at his place. One day I picked up a necklace featuring 12 drop pearls and 12 drop garnets and we popped across the street to the French bakery to buy some bread. The woman at the counter took one look at me in my pearls and quipped to her colleague - "Peut-etre il part au grand voyage". Now if that's not grounds for clutching ones pearls, then tell me what is.
– UserEpsilon
yesterday
2
@UserEpsilon Yes, well, I fail to see how this adds anything here. Why would going on a long journey mean you wear your pearls? I guess in the old days people went on ocean voyages, and in first class wore all their finery. The baker's quip in no way implied she was looking to grab them....so why would you clutch them?
– Lambie
yesterday
2
Generally, one says this of others. Especially, men about men. It's like in the armed services where the sergeants call the soldiers "ladies". Same idea.
– Lambie
yesterday
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I don't think anybody would say "I clutched my pearls". It is one of those expressions which convey a judgment on the person said to be doing it .
– Colin Fine
yesterday
I don't think anybody would say "I clutched my pearls". It is one of those expressions which convey a judgment on the person said to be doing it .
– Colin Fine
yesterday
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Neither men nor women would be likely to ever say, “I clutched my pearls when…”: this expression is exclusively (or at least almost exclusively) used in progressive or non-finite constructions. It’s also more used to describe other people than oneself because it’s somewhat belittling. You might hear, “Tom getting fired had Sheila clutching her pearls”. You might also hear it used to describe a man, though it tends to carry sexist overtones then: its pejorativeness makes it imply that he’s weak/over-sensitive/anything else stereotypically seen as negative female traits.
– Janus Bahs Jacquet
yesterday
Neither men nor women would be likely to ever say, “I clutched my pearls when…”: this expression is exclusively (or at least almost exclusively) used in progressive or non-finite constructions. It’s also more used to describe other people than oneself because it’s somewhat belittling. You might hear, “Tom getting fired had Sheila clutching her pearls”. You might also hear it used to describe a man, though it tends to carry sexist overtones then: its pejorativeness makes it imply that he’s weak/over-sensitive/anything else stereotypically seen as negative female traits.
– Janus Bahs Jacquet
yesterday
1
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I am male and there was at least one occasion when I should have said it. A friend of mine was working for the designer, Vivienne Westwood and he had a lot of her jewelry at his place. One day I picked up a necklace featuring 12 drop pearls and 12 drop garnets and we popped across the street to the French bakery to buy some bread. The woman at the counter took one look at me in my pearls and quipped to her colleague - "Peut-etre il part au grand voyage". Now if that's not grounds for clutching ones pearls, then tell me what is.
– UserEpsilon
yesterday
I am male and there was at least one occasion when I should have said it. A friend of mine was working for the designer, Vivienne Westwood and he had a lot of her jewelry at his place. One day I picked up a necklace featuring 12 drop pearls and 12 drop garnets and we popped across the street to the French bakery to buy some bread. The woman at the counter took one look at me in my pearls and quipped to her colleague - "Peut-etre il part au grand voyage". Now if that's not grounds for clutching ones pearls, then tell me what is.
– UserEpsilon
yesterday
2
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@UserEpsilon Yes, well, I fail to see how this adds anything here. Why would going on a long journey mean you wear your pearls? I guess in the old days people went on ocean voyages, and in first class wore all their finery. The baker's quip in no way implied she was looking to grab them....so why would you clutch them?
– Lambie
yesterday
@UserEpsilon Yes, well, I fail to see how this adds anything here. Why would going on a long journey mean you wear your pearls? I guess in the old days people went on ocean voyages, and in first class wore all their finery. The baker's quip in no way implied she was looking to grab them....so why would you clutch them?
– Lambie
yesterday
2
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Generally, one says this of others. Especially, men about men. It's like in the armed services where the sergeants call the soldiers "ladies". Same idea.
– Lambie
yesterday
Generally, one says this of others. Especially, men about men. It's like in the armed services where the sergeants call the soldiers "ladies". Same idea.
– Lambie
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The phrase “clutch one’s pearls” is always used derisively or sarcastically. Basically, it’s a put-down. It suggests a hysterical woman on the verge of a swoon. Moreover, it has an added flavor of an old-time caricature from movies of a bygone generation. Cf. Margaret Dumont in a Marx Brothers movie from the ‘30s:
You see Dumont on the left, prim and proper, ready to play the straight role to the comedians’ shenanigans. That might include shock, outrage, or even obliviousness. She might even fall on a couch clutching her pearls.
A man would never say this about himself, except to make a self-deprecatory joke. To say it about him would be tantamount to calling him a hysterical old lady (which is offensive not only to him but to elderly women as well). To say it about a woman would be a sexist put down.
Any way you slice it, utilizing that image to describe anybody is extremely derogatory.
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Happy new year! It's a pretty long time to hear from you. Thanks for an intrguing input. I'm still well with this site.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
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"males seldom wear a pearl necklace" -- Er, no, Mike, don't make that comment you were thinking of!
– Michael Harvey
yesterday
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For the record, the expression is not really about oneself. So, either a man or woman can say it. That said, it is always sarcastic. And also somewhat macho....
– Lambie
yesterday
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@YoichiOishi: 明けましておめでとうございます!
– Robusto
yesterday
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Pearl necklace has also another meaning...in pornography. I think Michael H was only teasing himself :)
– Mari-Lou A
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As noted in the following article by Grammarphobia:
People have been literally clutching their pearls in shock or otherwise for a long time. Here, for example, is a citation from a 1910 issue of the Chambers Journal, a weekly magazine that published fiction and nonfiction:
- “Without being aware that I had stirred, I found myself close to the table. I drew a gasping breath, and my hand went out without any conscious volition and clutched the pearls.”
But the phrase itself became popular years later mainly as a mocking metaphor, meaning “being ostentatiously shocked by something not all that shocking,” especially if the “shock” was feigned or reflected outdated social prejudices:
a gay character on the Fox TV show In Living Color is responsible for the earliest example of the usage mentioned in discussions over the last six months on the American Dialect Society’s Linguist List.
In an April 15, 1990, sketch, the flamboyant cultural critic Blaine Edwards (played by Damon Wayans) gushes over how daring the producers were to cast a male actor as the female lead in Dangerous Liaisons.
When told that Glenn Close is actually a woman, Edwards squeals in mock shock and says, “Well, clutch the pearls! What a sneaky thing to do.”
As suggested in the following extract, the expression is now dated and its usage has largely declined in recent years:
Judging from the instances of “clutch the pearls” and “pearl clutching” that I found in a Nexis search, the expression showed up only periodically through about 2004, almost always as a pun about wealthy women and literal pearls. Take a 2000 episode of World News Tonight in which co-anchor Alison Stewart said there was “a lot of pearl-clutching going on” in the high-end auction business following accusations of criminal price-fixing. The expression then went largely dormant. There are only 16 Google results for “pearl clutching” between Jan. 1, 2000, and Jan. 1, 2004, though it did appear in a 2003 academic work called Speaking in Queer Tongues: Globalization and Gay Language.
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Metaphors are no respecters of gender conventions. Here in Britain we can say that someone who is confused or upset to the point of incoherence has got his or her "knickers in a twist". I think that Americans might say "don't get your panties in a wad" or something similar. These sayings are definitely not restricted to the sex that conventionally wears knickers or panties. I have heard office workers in Britain say of an annoying male manager that he must be "on the rag" (having a period).
– Michael Harvey
yesterday
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@Michael It would have a different meaning for a female though, possibly a literal one. Whether it's used on a male or female, "on the rag" is misogynistic.
– Matt Samuel
yesterday
Matt Samuel, I think that the very notion that attribution of a female stereotype to a man is an insult is misogynistic.
– Michael Harvey
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From around what time this phrase started to be in use?
It now appears in OED as a draft addition:
Draft additions June 2018
Chiefly U.S. to clutch one's pearls and variants: to react with shock or dismay, esp. in response to something considered immoral,
underhand, or vulgar. Frequently ironic or humorous.
- What is the origin of this phrase?
The OED cites this sentence as in its draft. It is dated 1990:
1990 F. Ajaye et al. In Living Color (transcribed from TV programme)
1st Ser. Episode 1 Clutch the pearls, what a sneaky thing to do!
- Is it a popular phrase?
It appears to be increasing in popularity and usage.
- Can a man – males seldom wear a pearl necklace - use this phrase in
such a way as, “I clutched my pearls when I heard Tom was fired from
his office yesterday”?
It's gender neutral as it is a metaphor for humorously or ironically "shocked!" In the cited article, the entire Republican party is accused of clutching their pearls!
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This answer is wrong as shown by the other answers. The phrase is far older than the suggested origin of 1990.
– Bent
yesterday
@Bent so edited. tks
– lbf
yesterday
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The answer is not wrong. It's used by media pundit types discussing politics. To react with shock or dismay is somewhat recent. It's usually used by one person describing another's reaction to something. One doesn't go round using it in the first person generally. Though a humorous-minded person might.
– Lambie
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In a comment, Janus Bahs Jacquet wrote:
Neither men nor women would be likely to ever say, “I clutched my
pearls when…”: this expression is exclusively (or at least
almost exclusively) used in progressive or non-finite
constructions. It’s also more used to describe other people
than oneself because it’s somewhat belittling. You might hear,
“Tom getting fired had Sheila clutching her pearls”. You might
also hear it used to describe a man, though it tends to carry
sexist overtones then: its pejorativeness makes it imply
that he’s weak/over-sensitive/anything else stereotypically
seen as negative female traits.
And in another comment, Lambie wrote:
Generally, one says this of others. Especially, men about men. It's like in the armed services where the sergeants call the soldiers "ladies". Same idea.
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So, I'm interested in what's you are gonna say.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
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@YoichiOishiI had not planned to say anything myself. I just wanted to preserve both their related comments to render them findable by searches, because although they don’t address your first three subquestions, they do address your fourth and final subquestion, the one about whether men could say it and why. It was the most interesting of your set of four, or so it seemed to me, so these seemed worth preserving. Should either author care to develop their own answer, I shall gladly delete this post, but until such time, it is more searchable this way.
– tchrist♦
yesterday
Thanks, understood.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
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I find the many erudite answers compelling, but wrong.
I believe the meaning is much more vulgar. I think it is a euphemism for a fearful attempt to protect a man's genitals (the family jewels) from harm, or for anyone to fearfully protect one's wealth or status (pearl jewelry) from loss or theft.
It suggests that something has triggered a fight or flight response, or a knee jerk reaction.
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"I believe" is not compelling evidence :) Besides, as you correctly pointed out, men's testicles are sometimes referred to as "the family jewels". I think, "squeezing" or "grabbing" are the more common collocations
– Mari-Lou A
16 hours ago
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That's the meaning I assumed when I saw the question! Which indicates that 1) the phrase isn't at all common (in the UK at least); and 2) its real meaning isn't obvious if you don't already know it.
– gidds
14 hours ago
Do you know of any references to this interpretation? If you had a source, it would lend your answer more credibility.
– SuperBiasedMan
14 hours ago
One does NOT show disapproval by protecting their genitals.
– michael.hor257k
13 hours ago
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I doubt any living man would compare their "jewels" to that of pearls. Although spherical, pearls tend to be quite small...
– Mari-Lou A
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The phrase “clutch one’s pearls” is always used derisively or sarcastically. Basically, it’s a put-down. It suggests a hysterical woman on the verge of a swoon. Moreover, it has an added flavor of an old-time caricature from movies of a bygone generation. Cf. Margaret Dumont in a Marx Brothers movie from the ‘30s:
You see Dumont on the left, prim and proper, ready to play the straight role to the comedians’ shenanigans. That might include shock, outrage, or even obliviousness. She might even fall on a couch clutching her pearls.
A man would never say this about himself, except to make a self-deprecatory joke. To say it about him would be tantamount to calling him a hysterical old lady (which is offensive not only to him but to elderly women as well). To say it about a woman would be a sexist put down.
Any way you slice it, utilizing that image to describe anybody is extremely derogatory.
1
Happy new year! It's a pretty long time to hear from you. Thanks for an intrguing input. I'm still well with this site.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
5
"males seldom wear a pearl necklace" -- Er, no, Mike, don't make that comment you were thinking of!
– Michael Harvey
yesterday
1
For the record, the expression is not really about oneself. So, either a man or woman can say it. That said, it is always sarcastic. And also somewhat macho....
– Lambie
yesterday
1
@YoichiOishi: 明けましておめでとうございます!
– Robusto
yesterday
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Pearl necklace has also another meaning...in pornography. I think Michael H was only teasing himself :)
– Mari-Lou A
20 hours ago
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The phrase “clutch one’s pearls” is always used derisively or sarcastically. Basically, it’s a put-down. It suggests a hysterical woman on the verge of a swoon. Moreover, it has an added flavor of an old-time caricature from movies of a bygone generation. Cf. Margaret Dumont in a Marx Brothers movie from the ‘30s:
You see Dumont on the left, prim and proper, ready to play the straight role to the comedians’ shenanigans. That might include shock, outrage, or even obliviousness. She might even fall on a couch clutching her pearls.
A man would never say this about himself, except to make a self-deprecatory joke. To say it about him would be tantamount to calling him a hysterical old lady (which is offensive not only to him but to elderly women as well). To say it about a woman would be a sexist put down.
Any way you slice it, utilizing that image to describe anybody is extremely derogatory.
1
Happy new year! It's a pretty long time to hear from you. Thanks for an intrguing input. I'm still well with this site.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
5
"males seldom wear a pearl necklace" -- Er, no, Mike, don't make that comment you were thinking of!
– Michael Harvey
yesterday
1
For the record, the expression is not really about oneself. So, either a man or woman can say it. That said, it is always sarcastic. And also somewhat macho....
– Lambie
yesterday
1
@YoichiOishi: 明けましておめでとうございます!
– Robusto
yesterday
2
Pearl necklace has also another meaning...in pornography. I think Michael H was only teasing himself :)
– Mari-Lou A
20 hours ago
|
show 3 more comments
The phrase “clutch one’s pearls” is always used derisively or sarcastically. Basically, it’s a put-down. It suggests a hysterical woman on the verge of a swoon. Moreover, it has an added flavor of an old-time caricature from movies of a bygone generation. Cf. Margaret Dumont in a Marx Brothers movie from the ‘30s:
You see Dumont on the left, prim and proper, ready to play the straight role to the comedians’ shenanigans. That might include shock, outrage, or even obliviousness. She might even fall on a couch clutching her pearls.
A man would never say this about himself, except to make a self-deprecatory joke. To say it about him would be tantamount to calling him a hysterical old lady (which is offensive not only to him but to elderly women as well). To say it about a woman would be a sexist put down.
Any way you slice it, utilizing that image to describe anybody is extremely derogatory.
The phrase “clutch one’s pearls” is always used derisively or sarcastically. Basically, it’s a put-down. It suggests a hysterical woman on the verge of a swoon. Moreover, it has an added flavor of an old-time caricature from movies of a bygone generation. Cf. Margaret Dumont in a Marx Brothers movie from the ‘30s:
You see Dumont on the left, prim and proper, ready to play the straight role to the comedians’ shenanigans. That might include shock, outrage, or even obliviousness. She might even fall on a couch clutching her pearls.
A man would never say this about himself, except to make a self-deprecatory joke. To say it about him would be tantamount to calling him a hysterical old lady (which is offensive not only to him but to elderly women as well). To say it about a woman would be a sexist put down.
Any way you slice it, utilizing that image to describe anybody is extremely derogatory.
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Happy new year! It's a pretty long time to hear from you. Thanks for an intrguing input. I'm still well with this site.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
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"males seldom wear a pearl necklace" -- Er, no, Mike, don't make that comment you were thinking of!
– Michael Harvey
yesterday
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For the record, the expression is not really about oneself. So, either a man or woman can say it. That said, it is always sarcastic. And also somewhat macho....
– Lambie
yesterday
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@YoichiOishi: 明けましておめでとうございます!
– Robusto
yesterday
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Pearl necklace has also another meaning...in pornography. I think Michael H was only teasing himself :)
– Mari-Lou A
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Happy new year! It's a pretty long time to hear from you. Thanks for an intrguing input. I'm still well with this site.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
5
"males seldom wear a pearl necklace" -- Er, no, Mike, don't make that comment you were thinking of!
– Michael Harvey
yesterday
1
For the record, the expression is not really about oneself. So, either a man or woman can say it. That said, it is always sarcastic. And also somewhat macho....
– Lambie
yesterday
1
@YoichiOishi: 明けましておめでとうございます!
– Robusto
yesterday
2
Pearl necklace has also another meaning...in pornography. I think Michael H was only teasing himself :)
– Mari-Lou A
20 hours ago
1
1
Happy new year! It's a pretty long time to hear from you. Thanks for an intrguing input. I'm still well with this site.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
Happy new year! It's a pretty long time to hear from you. Thanks for an intrguing input. I'm still well with this site.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
5
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"males seldom wear a pearl necklace" -- Er, no, Mike, don't make that comment you were thinking of!
– Michael Harvey
yesterday
"males seldom wear a pearl necklace" -- Er, no, Mike, don't make that comment you were thinking of!
– Michael Harvey
yesterday
1
1
For the record, the expression is not really about oneself. So, either a man or woman can say it. That said, it is always sarcastic. And also somewhat macho....
– Lambie
yesterday
For the record, the expression is not really about oneself. So, either a man or woman can say it. That said, it is always sarcastic. And also somewhat macho....
– Lambie
yesterday
1
1
@YoichiOishi: 明けましておめでとうございます!
– Robusto
yesterday
@YoichiOishi: 明けましておめでとうございます!
– Robusto
yesterday
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Pearl necklace has also another meaning...in pornography. I think Michael H was only teasing himself :)
– Mari-Lou A
20 hours ago
Pearl necklace has also another meaning...in pornography. I think Michael H was only teasing himself :)
– Mari-Lou A
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As noted in the following article by Grammarphobia:
People have been literally clutching their pearls in shock or otherwise for a long time. Here, for example, is a citation from a 1910 issue of the Chambers Journal, a weekly magazine that published fiction and nonfiction:
- “Without being aware that I had stirred, I found myself close to the table. I drew a gasping breath, and my hand went out without any conscious volition and clutched the pearls.”
But the phrase itself became popular years later mainly as a mocking metaphor, meaning “being ostentatiously shocked by something not all that shocking,” especially if the “shock” was feigned or reflected outdated social prejudices:
a gay character on the Fox TV show In Living Color is responsible for the earliest example of the usage mentioned in discussions over the last six months on the American Dialect Society’s Linguist List.
In an April 15, 1990, sketch, the flamboyant cultural critic Blaine Edwards (played by Damon Wayans) gushes over how daring the producers were to cast a male actor as the female lead in Dangerous Liaisons.
When told that Glenn Close is actually a woman, Edwards squeals in mock shock and says, “Well, clutch the pearls! What a sneaky thing to do.”
As suggested in the following extract, the expression is now dated and its usage has largely declined in recent years:
Judging from the instances of “clutch the pearls” and “pearl clutching” that I found in a Nexis search, the expression showed up only periodically through about 2004, almost always as a pun about wealthy women and literal pearls. Take a 2000 episode of World News Tonight in which co-anchor Alison Stewart said there was “a lot of pearl-clutching going on” in the high-end auction business following accusations of criminal price-fixing. The expression then went largely dormant. There are only 16 Google results for “pearl clutching” between Jan. 1, 2000, and Jan. 1, 2004, though it did appear in a 2003 academic work called Speaking in Queer Tongues: Globalization and Gay Language.
(https://slate.com)
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Metaphors are no respecters of gender conventions. Here in Britain we can say that someone who is confused or upset to the point of incoherence has got his or her "knickers in a twist". I think that Americans might say "don't get your panties in a wad" or something similar. These sayings are definitely not restricted to the sex that conventionally wears knickers or panties. I have heard office workers in Britain say of an annoying male manager that he must be "on the rag" (having a period).
– Michael Harvey
yesterday
1
@Michael It would have a different meaning for a female though, possibly a literal one. Whether it's used on a male or female, "on the rag" is misogynistic.
– Matt Samuel
yesterday
Matt Samuel, I think that the very notion that attribution of a female stereotype to a man is an insult is misogynistic.
– Michael Harvey
10 hours ago
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As noted in the following article by Grammarphobia:
People have been literally clutching their pearls in shock or otherwise for a long time. Here, for example, is a citation from a 1910 issue of the Chambers Journal, a weekly magazine that published fiction and nonfiction:
- “Without being aware that I had stirred, I found myself close to the table. I drew a gasping breath, and my hand went out without any conscious volition and clutched the pearls.”
But the phrase itself became popular years later mainly as a mocking metaphor, meaning “being ostentatiously shocked by something not all that shocking,” especially if the “shock” was feigned or reflected outdated social prejudices:
a gay character on the Fox TV show In Living Color is responsible for the earliest example of the usage mentioned in discussions over the last six months on the American Dialect Society’s Linguist List.
In an April 15, 1990, sketch, the flamboyant cultural critic Blaine Edwards (played by Damon Wayans) gushes over how daring the producers were to cast a male actor as the female lead in Dangerous Liaisons.
When told that Glenn Close is actually a woman, Edwards squeals in mock shock and says, “Well, clutch the pearls! What a sneaky thing to do.”
As suggested in the following extract, the expression is now dated and its usage has largely declined in recent years:
Judging from the instances of “clutch the pearls” and “pearl clutching” that I found in a Nexis search, the expression showed up only periodically through about 2004, almost always as a pun about wealthy women and literal pearls. Take a 2000 episode of World News Tonight in which co-anchor Alison Stewart said there was “a lot of pearl-clutching going on” in the high-end auction business following accusations of criminal price-fixing. The expression then went largely dormant. There are only 16 Google results for “pearl clutching” between Jan. 1, 2000, and Jan. 1, 2004, though it did appear in a 2003 academic work called Speaking in Queer Tongues: Globalization and Gay Language.
(https://slate.com)
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Metaphors are no respecters of gender conventions. Here in Britain we can say that someone who is confused or upset to the point of incoherence has got his or her "knickers in a twist". I think that Americans might say "don't get your panties in a wad" or something similar. These sayings are definitely not restricted to the sex that conventionally wears knickers or panties. I have heard office workers in Britain say of an annoying male manager that he must be "on the rag" (having a period).
– Michael Harvey
yesterday
1
@Michael It would have a different meaning for a female though, possibly a literal one. Whether it's used on a male or female, "on the rag" is misogynistic.
– Matt Samuel
yesterday
Matt Samuel, I think that the very notion that attribution of a female stereotype to a man is an insult is misogynistic.
– Michael Harvey
10 hours ago
add a comment |
As noted in the following article by Grammarphobia:
People have been literally clutching their pearls in shock or otherwise for a long time. Here, for example, is a citation from a 1910 issue of the Chambers Journal, a weekly magazine that published fiction and nonfiction:
- “Without being aware that I had stirred, I found myself close to the table. I drew a gasping breath, and my hand went out without any conscious volition and clutched the pearls.”
But the phrase itself became popular years later mainly as a mocking metaphor, meaning “being ostentatiously shocked by something not all that shocking,” especially if the “shock” was feigned or reflected outdated social prejudices:
a gay character on the Fox TV show In Living Color is responsible for the earliest example of the usage mentioned in discussions over the last six months on the American Dialect Society’s Linguist List.
In an April 15, 1990, sketch, the flamboyant cultural critic Blaine Edwards (played by Damon Wayans) gushes over how daring the producers were to cast a male actor as the female lead in Dangerous Liaisons.
When told that Glenn Close is actually a woman, Edwards squeals in mock shock and says, “Well, clutch the pearls! What a sneaky thing to do.”
As suggested in the following extract, the expression is now dated and its usage has largely declined in recent years:
Judging from the instances of “clutch the pearls” and “pearl clutching” that I found in a Nexis search, the expression showed up only periodically through about 2004, almost always as a pun about wealthy women and literal pearls. Take a 2000 episode of World News Tonight in which co-anchor Alison Stewart said there was “a lot of pearl-clutching going on” in the high-end auction business following accusations of criminal price-fixing. The expression then went largely dormant. There are only 16 Google results for “pearl clutching” between Jan. 1, 2000, and Jan. 1, 2004, though it did appear in a 2003 academic work called Speaking in Queer Tongues: Globalization and Gay Language.
(https://slate.com)
As noted in the following article by Grammarphobia:
People have been literally clutching their pearls in shock or otherwise for a long time. Here, for example, is a citation from a 1910 issue of the Chambers Journal, a weekly magazine that published fiction and nonfiction:
- “Without being aware that I had stirred, I found myself close to the table. I drew a gasping breath, and my hand went out without any conscious volition and clutched the pearls.”
But the phrase itself became popular years later mainly as a mocking metaphor, meaning “being ostentatiously shocked by something not all that shocking,” especially if the “shock” was feigned or reflected outdated social prejudices:
a gay character on the Fox TV show In Living Color is responsible for the earliest example of the usage mentioned in discussions over the last six months on the American Dialect Society’s Linguist List.
In an April 15, 1990, sketch, the flamboyant cultural critic Blaine Edwards (played by Damon Wayans) gushes over how daring the producers were to cast a male actor as the female lead in Dangerous Liaisons.
When told that Glenn Close is actually a woman, Edwards squeals in mock shock and says, “Well, clutch the pearls! What a sneaky thing to do.”
As suggested in the following extract, the expression is now dated and its usage has largely declined in recent years:
Judging from the instances of “clutch the pearls” and “pearl clutching” that I found in a Nexis search, the expression showed up only periodically through about 2004, almost always as a pun about wealthy women and literal pearls. Take a 2000 episode of World News Tonight in which co-anchor Alison Stewart said there was “a lot of pearl-clutching going on” in the high-end auction business following accusations of criminal price-fixing. The expression then went largely dormant. There are only 16 Google results for “pearl clutching” between Jan. 1, 2000, and Jan. 1, 2004, though it did appear in a 2003 academic work called Speaking in Queer Tongues: Globalization and Gay Language.
(https://slate.com)
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Metaphors are no respecters of gender conventions. Here in Britain we can say that someone who is confused or upset to the point of incoherence has got his or her "knickers in a twist". I think that Americans might say "don't get your panties in a wad" or something similar. These sayings are definitely not restricted to the sex that conventionally wears knickers or panties. I have heard office workers in Britain say of an annoying male manager that he must be "on the rag" (having a period).
– Michael Harvey
yesterday
1
@Michael It would have a different meaning for a female though, possibly a literal one. Whether it's used on a male or female, "on the rag" is misogynistic.
– Matt Samuel
yesterday
Matt Samuel, I think that the very notion that attribution of a female stereotype to a man is an insult is misogynistic.
– Michael Harvey
10 hours ago
add a comment |
5
Metaphors are no respecters of gender conventions. Here in Britain we can say that someone who is confused or upset to the point of incoherence has got his or her "knickers in a twist". I think that Americans might say "don't get your panties in a wad" or something similar. These sayings are definitely not restricted to the sex that conventionally wears knickers or panties. I have heard office workers in Britain say of an annoying male manager that he must be "on the rag" (having a period).
– Michael Harvey
yesterday
1
@Michael It would have a different meaning for a female though, possibly a literal one. Whether it's used on a male or female, "on the rag" is misogynistic.
– Matt Samuel
yesterday
Matt Samuel, I think that the very notion that attribution of a female stereotype to a man is an insult is misogynistic.
– Michael Harvey
10 hours ago
5
5
Metaphors are no respecters of gender conventions. Here in Britain we can say that someone who is confused or upset to the point of incoherence has got his or her "knickers in a twist". I think that Americans might say "don't get your panties in a wad" or something similar. These sayings are definitely not restricted to the sex that conventionally wears knickers or panties. I have heard office workers in Britain say of an annoying male manager that he must be "on the rag" (having a period).
– Michael Harvey
yesterday
Metaphors are no respecters of gender conventions. Here in Britain we can say that someone who is confused or upset to the point of incoherence has got his or her "knickers in a twist". I think that Americans might say "don't get your panties in a wad" or something similar. These sayings are definitely not restricted to the sex that conventionally wears knickers or panties. I have heard office workers in Britain say of an annoying male manager that he must be "on the rag" (having a period).
– Michael Harvey
yesterday
1
1
@Michael It would have a different meaning for a female though, possibly a literal one. Whether it's used on a male or female, "on the rag" is misogynistic.
– Matt Samuel
yesterday
@Michael It would have a different meaning for a female though, possibly a literal one. Whether it's used on a male or female, "on the rag" is misogynistic.
– Matt Samuel
yesterday
Matt Samuel, I think that the very notion that attribution of a female stereotype to a man is an insult is misogynistic.
– Michael Harvey
10 hours ago
Matt Samuel, I think that the very notion that attribution of a female stereotype to a man is an insult is misogynistic.
– Michael Harvey
10 hours ago
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From around what time this phrase started to be in use?
It now appears in OED as a draft addition:
Draft additions June 2018
Chiefly U.S. to clutch one's pearls and variants: to react with shock or dismay, esp. in response to something considered immoral,
underhand, or vulgar. Frequently ironic or humorous.
- What is the origin of this phrase?
The OED cites this sentence as in its draft. It is dated 1990:
1990 F. Ajaye et al. In Living Color (transcribed from TV programme)
1st Ser. Episode 1 Clutch the pearls, what a sneaky thing to do!
- Is it a popular phrase?
It appears to be increasing in popularity and usage.
- Can a man – males seldom wear a pearl necklace - use this phrase in
such a way as, “I clutched my pearls when I heard Tom was fired from
his office yesterday”?
It's gender neutral as it is a metaphor for humorously or ironically "shocked!" In the cited article, the entire Republican party is accused of clutching their pearls!
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This answer is wrong as shown by the other answers. The phrase is far older than the suggested origin of 1990.
– Bent
yesterday
@Bent so edited. tks
– lbf
yesterday
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The answer is not wrong. It's used by media pundit types discussing politics. To react with shock or dismay is somewhat recent. It's usually used by one person describing another's reaction to something. One doesn't go round using it in the first person generally. Though a humorous-minded person might.
– Lambie
yesterday
add a comment |
From around what time this phrase started to be in use?
It now appears in OED as a draft addition:
Draft additions June 2018
Chiefly U.S. to clutch one's pearls and variants: to react with shock or dismay, esp. in response to something considered immoral,
underhand, or vulgar. Frequently ironic or humorous.
- What is the origin of this phrase?
The OED cites this sentence as in its draft. It is dated 1990:
1990 F. Ajaye et al. In Living Color (transcribed from TV programme)
1st Ser. Episode 1 Clutch the pearls, what a sneaky thing to do!
- Is it a popular phrase?
It appears to be increasing in popularity and usage.
- Can a man – males seldom wear a pearl necklace - use this phrase in
such a way as, “I clutched my pearls when I heard Tom was fired from
his office yesterday”?
It's gender neutral as it is a metaphor for humorously or ironically "shocked!" In the cited article, the entire Republican party is accused of clutching their pearls!
3
This answer is wrong as shown by the other answers. The phrase is far older than the suggested origin of 1990.
– Bent
yesterday
@Bent so edited. tks
– lbf
yesterday
2
The answer is not wrong. It's used by media pundit types discussing politics. To react with shock or dismay is somewhat recent. It's usually used by one person describing another's reaction to something. One doesn't go round using it in the first person generally. Though a humorous-minded person might.
– Lambie
yesterday
add a comment |
From around what time this phrase started to be in use?
It now appears in OED as a draft addition:
Draft additions June 2018
Chiefly U.S. to clutch one's pearls and variants: to react with shock or dismay, esp. in response to something considered immoral,
underhand, or vulgar. Frequently ironic or humorous.
- What is the origin of this phrase?
The OED cites this sentence as in its draft. It is dated 1990:
1990 F. Ajaye et al. In Living Color (transcribed from TV programme)
1st Ser. Episode 1 Clutch the pearls, what a sneaky thing to do!
- Is it a popular phrase?
It appears to be increasing in popularity and usage.
- Can a man – males seldom wear a pearl necklace - use this phrase in
such a way as, “I clutched my pearls when I heard Tom was fired from
his office yesterday”?
It's gender neutral as it is a metaphor for humorously or ironically "shocked!" In the cited article, the entire Republican party is accused of clutching their pearls!
From around what time this phrase started to be in use?
It now appears in OED as a draft addition:
Draft additions June 2018
Chiefly U.S. to clutch one's pearls and variants: to react with shock or dismay, esp. in response to something considered immoral,
underhand, or vulgar. Frequently ironic or humorous.
- What is the origin of this phrase?
The OED cites this sentence as in its draft. It is dated 1990:
1990 F. Ajaye et al. In Living Color (transcribed from TV programme)
1st Ser. Episode 1 Clutch the pearls, what a sneaky thing to do!
- Is it a popular phrase?
It appears to be increasing in popularity and usage.
- Can a man – males seldom wear a pearl necklace - use this phrase in
such a way as, “I clutched my pearls when I heard Tom was fired from
his office yesterday”?
It's gender neutral as it is a metaphor for humorously or ironically "shocked!" In the cited article, the entire Republican party is accused of clutching their pearls!
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This answer is wrong as shown by the other answers. The phrase is far older than the suggested origin of 1990.
– Bent
yesterday
@Bent so edited. tks
– lbf
yesterday
2
The answer is not wrong. It's used by media pundit types discussing politics. To react with shock or dismay is somewhat recent. It's usually used by one person describing another's reaction to something. One doesn't go round using it in the first person generally. Though a humorous-minded person might.
– Lambie
yesterday
add a comment |
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This answer is wrong as shown by the other answers. The phrase is far older than the suggested origin of 1990.
– Bent
yesterday
@Bent so edited. tks
– lbf
yesterday
2
The answer is not wrong. It's used by media pundit types discussing politics. To react with shock or dismay is somewhat recent. It's usually used by one person describing another's reaction to something. One doesn't go round using it in the first person generally. Though a humorous-minded person might.
– Lambie
yesterday
3
3
This answer is wrong as shown by the other answers. The phrase is far older than the suggested origin of 1990.
– Bent
yesterday
This answer is wrong as shown by the other answers. The phrase is far older than the suggested origin of 1990.
– Bent
yesterday
@Bent so edited. tks
– lbf
yesterday
@Bent so edited. tks
– lbf
yesterday
2
2
The answer is not wrong. It's used by media pundit types discussing politics. To react with shock or dismay is somewhat recent. It's usually used by one person describing another's reaction to something. One doesn't go round using it in the first person generally. Though a humorous-minded person might.
– Lambie
yesterday
The answer is not wrong. It's used by media pundit types discussing politics. To react with shock or dismay is somewhat recent. It's usually used by one person describing another's reaction to something. One doesn't go round using it in the first person generally. Though a humorous-minded person might.
– Lambie
yesterday
add a comment |
In a comment, Janus Bahs Jacquet wrote:
Neither men nor women would be likely to ever say, “I clutched my
pearls when…”: this expression is exclusively (or at least
almost exclusively) used in progressive or non-finite
constructions. It’s also more used to describe other people
than oneself because it’s somewhat belittling. You might hear,
“Tom getting fired had Sheila clutching her pearls”. You might
also hear it used to describe a man, though it tends to carry
sexist overtones then: its pejorativeness makes it imply
that he’s weak/over-sensitive/anything else stereotypically
seen as negative female traits.
And in another comment, Lambie wrote:
Generally, one says this of others. Especially, men about men. It's like in the armed services where the sergeants call the soldiers "ladies". Same idea.
1
So, I'm interested in what's you are gonna say.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
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@YoichiOishiI had not planned to say anything myself. I just wanted to preserve both their related comments to render them findable by searches, because although they don’t address your first three subquestions, they do address your fourth and final subquestion, the one about whether men could say it and why. It was the most interesting of your set of four, or so it seemed to me, so these seemed worth preserving. Should either author care to develop their own answer, I shall gladly delete this post, but until such time, it is more searchable this way.
– tchrist♦
yesterday
Thanks, understood.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
add a comment |
In a comment, Janus Bahs Jacquet wrote:
Neither men nor women would be likely to ever say, “I clutched my
pearls when…”: this expression is exclusively (or at least
almost exclusively) used in progressive or non-finite
constructions. It’s also more used to describe other people
than oneself because it’s somewhat belittling. You might hear,
“Tom getting fired had Sheila clutching her pearls”. You might
also hear it used to describe a man, though it tends to carry
sexist overtones then: its pejorativeness makes it imply
that he’s weak/over-sensitive/anything else stereotypically
seen as negative female traits.
And in another comment, Lambie wrote:
Generally, one says this of others. Especially, men about men. It's like in the armed services where the sergeants call the soldiers "ladies". Same idea.
1
So, I'm interested in what's you are gonna say.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
3
@YoichiOishiI had not planned to say anything myself. I just wanted to preserve both their related comments to render them findable by searches, because although they don’t address your first three subquestions, they do address your fourth and final subquestion, the one about whether men could say it and why. It was the most interesting of your set of four, or so it seemed to me, so these seemed worth preserving. Should either author care to develop their own answer, I shall gladly delete this post, but until such time, it is more searchable this way.
– tchrist♦
yesterday
Thanks, understood.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
add a comment |
In a comment, Janus Bahs Jacquet wrote:
Neither men nor women would be likely to ever say, “I clutched my
pearls when…”: this expression is exclusively (or at least
almost exclusively) used in progressive or non-finite
constructions. It’s also more used to describe other people
than oneself because it’s somewhat belittling. You might hear,
“Tom getting fired had Sheila clutching her pearls”. You might
also hear it used to describe a man, though it tends to carry
sexist overtones then: its pejorativeness makes it imply
that he’s weak/over-sensitive/anything else stereotypically
seen as negative female traits.
And in another comment, Lambie wrote:
Generally, one says this of others. Especially, men about men. It's like in the armed services where the sergeants call the soldiers "ladies". Same idea.
In a comment, Janus Bahs Jacquet wrote:
Neither men nor women would be likely to ever say, “I clutched my
pearls when…”: this expression is exclusively (or at least
almost exclusively) used in progressive or non-finite
constructions. It’s also more used to describe other people
than oneself because it’s somewhat belittling. You might hear,
“Tom getting fired had Sheila clutching her pearls”. You might
also hear it used to describe a man, though it tends to carry
sexist overtones then: its pejorativeness makes it imply
that he’s weak/over-sensitive/anything else stereotypically
seen as negative female traits.
And in another comment, Lambie wrote:
Generally, one says this of others. Especially, men about men. It's like in the armed services where the sergeants call the soldiers "ladies". Same idea.
answered yesterday
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tchrist
1
So, I'm interested in what's you are gonna say.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
3
@YoichiOishiI had not planned to say anything myself. I just wanted to preserve both their related comments to render them findable by searches, because although they don’t address your first three subquestions, they do address your fourth and final subquestion, the one about whether men could say it and why. It was the most interesting of your set of four, or so it seemed to me, so these seemed worth preserving. Should either author care to develop their own answer, I shall gladly delete this post, but until such time, it is more searchable this way.
– tchrist♦
yesterday
Thanks, understood.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
add a comment |
1
So, I'm interested in what's you are gonna say.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
3
@YoichiOishiI had not planned to say anything myself. I just wanted to preserve both their related comments to render them findable by searches, because although they don’t address your first three subquestions, they do address your fourth and final subquestion, the one about whether men could say it and why. It was the most interesting of your set of four, or so it seemed to me, so these seemed worth preserving. Should either author care to develop their own answer, I shall gladly delete this post, but until such time, it is more searchable this way.
– tchrist♦
yesterday
Thanks, understood.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
1
1
So, I'm interested in what's you are gonna say.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
So, I'm interested in what's you are gonna say.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
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@YoichiOishiI had not planned to say anything myself. I just wanted to preserve both their related comments to render them findable by searches, because although they don’t address your first three subquestions, they do address your fourth and final subquestion, the one about whether men could say it and why. It was the most interesting of your set of four, or so it seemed to me, so these seemed worth preserving. Should either author care to develop their own answer, I shall gladly delete this post, but until such time, it is more searchable this way.
– tchrist♦
yesterday
@YoichiOishiI had not planned to say anything myself. I just wanted to preserve both their related comments to render them findable by searches, because although they don’t address your first three subquestions, they do address your fourth and final subquestion, the one about whether men could say it and why. It was the most interesting of your set of four, or so it seemed to me, so these seemed worth preserving. Should either author care to develop their own answer, I shall gladly delete this post, but until such time, it is more searchable this way.
– tchrist♦
yesterday
Thanks, understood.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
Thanks, understood.
– Yoichi Oishi♦
yesterday
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I find the many erudite answers compelling, but wrong.
I believe the meaning is much more vulgar. I think it is a euphemism for a fearful attempt to protect a man's genitals (the family jewels) from harm, or for anyone to fearfully protect one's wealth or status (pearl jewelry) from loss or theft.
It suggests that something has triggered a fight or flight response, or a knee jerk reaction.
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"I believe" is not compelling evidence :) Besides, as you correctly pointed out, men's testicles are sometimes referred to as "the family jewels". I think, "squeezing" or "grabbing" are the more common collocations
– Mari-Lou A
16 hours ago
1
That's the meaning I assumed when I saw the question! Which indicates that 1) the phrase isn't at all common (in the UK at least); and 2) its real meaning isn't obvious if you don't already know it.
– gidds
14 hours ago
Do you know of any references to this interpretation? If you had a source, it would lend your answer more credibility.
– SuperBiasedMan
14 hours ago
One does NOT show disapproval by protecting their genitals.
– michael.hor257k
13 hours ago
1
I doubt any living man would compare their "jewels" to that of pearls. Although spherical, pearls tend to be quite small...
– Mari-Lou A
11 hours ago
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I find the many erudite answers compelling, but wrong.
I believe the meaning is much more vulgar. I think it is a euphemism for a fearful attempt to protect a man's genitals (the family jewels) from harm, or for anyone to fearfully protect one's wealth or status (pearl jewelry) from loss or theft.
It suggests that something has triggered a fight or flight response, or a knee jerk reaction.
New contributor
5
"I believe" is not compelling evidence :) Besides, as you correctly pointed out, men's testicles are sometimes referred to as "the family jewels". I think, "squeezing" or "grabbing" are the more common collocations
– Mari-Lou A
16 hours ago
1
That's the meaning I assumed when I saw the question! Which indicates that 1) the phrase isn't at all common (in the UK at least); and 2) its real meaning isn't obvious if you don't already know it.
– gidds
14 hours ago
Do you know of any references to this interpretation? If you had a source, it would lend your answer more credibility.
– SuperBiasedMan
14 hours ago
One does NOT show disapproval by protecting their genitals.
– michael.hor257k
13 hours ago
1
I doubt any living man would compare their "jewels" to that of pearls. Although spherical, pearls tend to be quite small...
– Mari-Lou A
11 hours ago
|
show 1 more comment
I find the many erudite answers compelling, but wrong.
I believe the meaning is much more vulgar. I think it is a euphemism for a fearful attempt to protect a man's genitals (the family jewels) from harm, or for anyone to fearfully protect one's wealth or status (pearl jewelry) from loss or theft.
It suggests that something has triggered a fight or flight response, or a knee jerk reaction.
New contributor
I find the many erudite answers compelling, but wrong.
I believe the meaning is much more vulgar. I think it is a euphemism for a fearful attempt to protect a man's genitals (the family jewels) from harm, or for anyone to fearfully protect one's wealth or status (pearl jewelry) from loss or theft.
It suggests that something has triggered a fight or flight response, or a knee jerk reaction.
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Doug HendersonDoug Henderson
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"I believe" is not compelling evidence :) Besides, as you correctly pointed out, men's testicles are sometimes referred to as "the family jewels". I think, "squeezing" or "grabbing" are the more common collocations
– Mari-Lou A
16 hours ago
1
That's the meaning I assumed when I saw the question! Which indicates that 1) the phrase isn't at all common (in the UK at least); and 2) its real meaning isn't obvious if you don't already know it.
– gidds
14 hours ago
Do you know of any references to this interpretation? If you had a source, it would lend your answer more credibility.
– SuperBiasedMan
14 hours ago
One does NOT show disapproval by protecting their genitals.
– michael.hor257k
13 hours ago
1
I doubt any living man would compare their "jewels" to that of pearls. Although spherical, pearls tend to be quite small...
– Mari-Lou A
11 hours ago
|
show 1 more comment
5
"I believe" is not compelling evidence :) Besides, as you correctly pointed out, men's testicles are sometimes referred to as "the family jewels". I think, "squeezing" or "grabbing" are the more common collocations
– Mari-Lou A
16 hours ago
1
That's the meaning I assumed when I saw the question! Which indicates that 1) the phrase isn't at all common (in the UK at least); and 2) its real meaning isn't obvious if you don't already know it.
– gidds
14 hours ago
Do you know of any references to this interpretation? If you had a source, it would lend your answer more credibility.
– SuperBiasedMan
14 hours ago
One does NOT show disapproval by protecting their genitals.
– michael.hor257k
13 hours ago
1
I doubt any living man would compare their "jewels" to that of pearls. Although spherical, pearls tend to be quite small...
– Mari-Lou A
11 hours ago
5
5
"I believe" is not compelling evidence :) Besides, as you correctly pointed out, men's testicles are sometimes referred to as "the family jewels". I think, "squeezing" or "grabbing" are the more common collocations
– Mari-Lou A
16 hours ago
"I believe" is not compelling evidence :) Besides, as you correctly pointed out, men's testicles are sometimes referred to as "the family jewels". I think, "squeezing" or "grabbing" are the more common collocations
– Mari-Lou A
16 hours ago
1
1
That's the meaning I assumed when I saw the question! Which indicates that 1) the phrase isn't at all common (in the UK at least); and 2) its real meaning isn't obvious if you don't already know it.
– gidds
14 hours ago
That's the meaning I assumed when I saw the question! Which indicates that 1) the phrase isn't at all common (in the UK at least); and 2) its real meaning isn't obvious if you don't already know it.
– gidds
14 hours ago
Do you know of any references to this interpretation? If you had a source, it would lend your answer more credibility.
– SuperBiasedMan
14 hours ago
Do you know of any references to this interpretation? If you had a source, it would lend your answer more credibility.
– SuperBiasedMan
14 hours ago
One does NOT show disapproval by protecting their genitals.
– michael.hor257k
13 hours ago
One does NOT show disapproval by protecting their genitals.
– michael.hor257k
13 hours ago
1
1
I doubt any living man would compare their "jewels" to that of pearls. Although spherical, pearls tend to be quite small...
– Mari-Lou A
11 hours ago
I doubt any living man would compare their "jewels" to that of pearls. Although spherical, pearls tend to be quite small...
– Mari-Lou A
11 hours ago
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I don't think anybody would say "I clutched my pearls". It is one of those expressions which convey a judgment on the person said to be doing it .
– Colin Fine
yesterday
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Neither men nor women would be likely to ever say, “I clutched my pearls when…”: this expression is exclusively (or at least almost exclusively) used in progressive or non-finite constructions. It’s also more used to describe other people than oneself because it’s somewhat belittling. You might hear, “Tom getting fired had Sheila clutching her pearls”. You might also hear it used to describe a man, though it tends to carry sexist overtones then: its pejorativeness makes it imply that he’s weak/over-sensitive/anything else stereotypically seen as negative female traits.
– Janus Bahs Jacquet
yesterday
1
I am male and there was at least one occasion when I should have said it. A friend of mine was working for the designer, Vivienne Westwood and he had a lot of her jewelry at his place. One day I picked up a necklace featuring 12 drop pearls and 12 drop garnets and we popped across the street to the French bakery to buy some bread. The woman at the counter took one look at me in my pearls and quipped to her colleague - "Peut-etre il part au grand voyage". Now if that's not grounds for clutching ones pearls, then tell me what is.
– UserEpsilon
yesterday
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@UserEpsilon Yes, well, I fail to see how this adds anything here. Why would going on a long journey mean you wear your pearls? I guess in the old days people went on ocean voyages, and in first class wore all their finery. The baker's quip in no way implied she was looking to grab them....so why would you clutch them?
– Lambie
yesterday
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Generally, one says this of others. Especially, men about men. It's like in the armed services where the sergeants call the soldiers "ladies". Same idea.
– Lambie
yesterday