I encountered my boss during an on-site interview at another company. Should I bring it up when seeing him...
I have been casually looking around for a new job for a few months now and had some Skype interviews so far. One of the companies I interviewed with flew me in for an on-site interview last week.
We had a series of interview rounds with short coffee breaks in between. When I was drinking coffee and chatting with the recruiter, I saw my current manager pass by in the hallway being escorted by one of the interviewers that had interviewed me just before. I am pretty sure he saw me as well, but we did not acknowledge each other.
I did relatively well in the interviews and they want to proceed with another round with a hiring manager, however I realized that I am probably not a good fit for their culture, so I plan on staying for a while longer at my current gig.
I am pretty sure that my boss was there for interviews as well as I do not see any other convincing reasons he would be there otherwise (the two companies are direct competitors in several key areas and the interview was in a different state).
I never told or otherwise indicated to my boss that I was looking around. My question is: should I bring it up with my boss next time we meet or just pretend it never happened.
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I have been casually looking around for a new job for a few months now and had some Skype interviews so far. One of the companies I interviewed with flew me in for an on-site interview last week.
We had a series of interview rounds with short coffee breaks in between. When I was drinking coffee and chatting with the recruiter, I saw my current manager pass by in the hallway being escorted by one of the interviewers that had interviewed me just before. I am pretty sure he saw me as well, but we did not acknowledge each other.
I did relatively well in the interviews and they want to proceed with another round with a hiring manager, however I realized that I am probably not a good fit for their culture, so I plan on staying for a while longer at my current gig.
I am pretty sure that my boss was there for interviews as well as I do not see any other convincing reasons he would be there otherwise (the two companies are direct competitors in several key areas and the interview was in a different state).
I never told or otherwise indicated to my boss that I was looking around. My question is: should I bring it up with my boss next time we meet or just pretend it never happened.
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what is your relationship with manager? how long you've worked together
– aaaaaa
6 hours ago
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3 years and we get along well enough, but we don't really discuss anything beyond my direct duties and the upcoming work.
– user100865
6 hours ago
is there anything you want to happen? i.e. would you be happier if both of you move to new corp?
– aaaaaa
6 hours ago
I hold no ill will towards him, he's a good dev and a decent manager, only a bit too passive. The reason I'm looking around is that it seems that I've reached a career dead end as the company is pivoting to a different operating model that will not require my specialized skills as much.
– user100865
6 hours ago
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Aside: what a complete screw up by the hiring company's HR department.
– Philip Kendall
6 hours ago
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I have been casually looking around for a new job for a few months now and had some Skype interviews so far. One of the companies I interviewed with flew me in for an on-site interview last week.
We had a series of interview rounds with short coffee breaks in between. When I was drinking coffee and chatting with the recruiter, I saw my current manager pass by in the hallway being escorted by one of the interviewers that had interviewed me just before. I am pretty sure he saw me as well, but we did not acknowledge each other.
I did relatively well in the interviews and they want to proceed with another round with a hiring manager, however I realized that I am probably not a good fit for their culture, so I plan on staying for a while longer at my current gig.
I am pretty sure that my boss was there for interviews as well as I do not see any other convincing reasons he would be there otherwise (the two companies are direct competitors in several key areas and the interview was in a different state).
I never told or otherwise indicated to my boss that I was looking around. My question is: should I bring it up with my boss next time we meet or just pretend it never happened.
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I have been casually looking around for a new job for a few months now and had some Skype interviews so far. One of the companies I interviewed with flew me in for an on-site interview last week.
We had a series of interview rounds with short coffee breaks in between. When I was drinking coffee and chatting with the recruiter, I saw my current manager pass by in the hallway being escorted by one of the interviewers that had interviewed me just before. I am pretty sure he saw me as well, but we did not acknowledge each other.
I did relatively well in the interviews and they want to proceed with another round with a hiring manager, however I realized that I am probably not a good fit for their culture, so I plan on staying for a while longer at my current gig.
I am pretty sure that my boss was there for interviews as well as I do not see any other convincing reasons he would be there otherwise (the two companies are direct competitors in several key areas and the interview was in a different state).
I never told or otherwise indicated to my boss that I was looking around. My question is: should I bring it up with my boss next time we meet or just pretend it never happened.
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3
what is your relationship with manager? how long you've worked together
– aaaaaa
6 hours ago
1
3 years and we get along well enough, but we don't really discuss anything beyond my direct duties and the upcoming work.
– user100865
6 hours ago
is there anything you want to happen? i.e. would you be happier if both of you move to new corp?
– aaaaaa
6 hours ago
I hold no ill will towards him, he's a good dev and a decent manager, only a bit too passive. The reason I'm looking around is that it seems that I've reached a career dead end as the company is pivoting to a different operating model that will not require my specialized skills as much.
– user100865
6 hours ago
16
Aside: what a complete screw up by the hiring company's HR department.
– Philip Kendall
6 hours ago
|
show 3 more comments
3
what is your relationship with manager? how long you've worked together
– aaaaaa
6 hours ago
1
3 years and we get along well enough, but we don't really discuss anything beyond my direct duties and the upcoming work.
– user100865
6 hours ago
is there anything you want to happen? i.e. would you be happier if both of you move to new corp?
– aaaaaa
6 hours ago
I hold no ill will towards him, he's a good dev and a decent manager, only a bit too passive. The reason I'm looking around is that it seems that I've reached a career dead end as the company is pivoting to a different operating model that will not require my specialized skills as much.
– user100865
6 hours ago
16
Aside: what a complete screw up by the hiring company's HR department.
– Philip Kendall
6 hours ago
3
3
what is your relationship with manager? how long you've worked together
– aaaaaa
6 hours ago
what is your relationship with manager? how long you've worked together
– aaaaaa
6 hours ago
1
1
3 years and we get along well enough, but we don't really discuss anything beyond my direct duties and the upcoming work.
– user100865
6 hours ago
3 years and we get along well enough, but we don't really discuss anything beyond my direct duties and the upcoming work.
– user100865
6 hours ago
is there anything you want to happen? i.e. would you be happier if both of you move to new corp?
– aaaaaa
6 hours ago
is there anything you want to happen? i.e. would you be happier if both of you move to new corp?
– aaaaaa
6 hours ago
I hold no ill will towards him, he's a good dev and a decent manager, only a bit too passive. The reason I'm looking around is that it seems that I've reached a career dead end as the company is pivoting to a different operating model that will not require my specialized skills as much.
– user100865
6 hours ago
I hold no ill will towards him, he's a good dev and a decent manager, only a bit too passive. The reason I'm looking around is that it seems that I've reached a career dead end as the company is pivoting to a different operating model that will not require my specialized skills as much.
– user100865
6 hours ago
16
16
Aside: what a complete screw up by the hiring company's HR department.
– Philip Kendall
6 hours ago
Aside: what a complete screw up by the hiring company's HR department.
– Philip Kendall
6 hours ago
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What would you have to gain?
You saw them. They saw you. Both of you knew why you were there. Both of you were probably at least a bit embarrassed about it. Bringing it up just means dredging through the embarrassment again, to no apparent gain. Better to remain silent and pretend it didn't happen. Maybe allow yourself a wry shared smile, or something.
If you can come up with something meaningful that you'd actually gain from it, though, it could be worthwhile to approach it. For example, you now know that your boss is looking. If you happen to notice an opening that they'd be a good fit for, and you can pass it to them discreetly, then that sort of thing might be appropriate.
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If anyone should be saying something it should be him.
Let him come to you.
If he doesn't, ignore what happened.
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What would you have to gain?
You saw them. They saw you. Both of you knew why you were there. Both of you were probably at least a bit embarrassed about it. Bringing it up just means dredging through the embarrassment again, to no apparent gain. Better to remain silent and pretend it didn't happen. Maybe allow yourself a wry shared smile, or something.
If you can come up with something meaningful that you'd actually gain from it, though, it could be worthwhile to approach it. For example, you now know that your boss is looking. If you happen to notice an opening that they'd be a good fit for, and you can pass it to them discreetly, then that sort of thing might be appropriate.
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What would you have to gain?
You saw them. They saw you. Both of you knew why you were there. Both of you were probably at least a bit embarrassed about it. Bringing it up just means dredging through the embarrassment again, to no apparent gain. Better to remain silent and pretend it didn't happen. Maybe allow yourself a wry shared smile, or something.
If you can come up with something meaningful that you'd actually gain from it, though, it could be worthwhile to approach it. For example, you now know that your boss is looking. If you happen to notice an opening that they'd be a good fit for, and you can pass it to them discreetly, then that sort of thing might be appropriate.
answered 6 hours ago
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What would you have to gain?
You saw them. They saw you. Both of you knew why you were there. Both of you were probably at least a bit embarrassed about it. Bringing it up just means dredging through the embarrassment again, to no apparent gain. Better to remain silent and pretend it didn't happen. Maybe allow yourself a wry shared smile, or something.
If you can come up with something meaningful that you'd actually gain from it, though, it could be worthwhile to approach it. For example, you now know that your boss is looking. If you happen to notice an opening that they'd be a good fit for, and you can pass it to them discreetly, then that sort of thing might be appropriate.
answered 6 hours ago
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What would you have to gain?
You saw them. They saw you. Both of you knew why you were there. Both of you were probably at least a bit embarrassed about it. Bringing it up just means dredging through the embarrassment again, to no apparent gain. Better to remain silent and pretend it didn't happen. Maybe allow yourself a wry shared smile, or something.
If you can come up with something meaningful that you'd actually gain from it, though, it could be worthwhile to approach it. For example, you now know that your boss is looking. If you happen to notice an opening that they'd be a good fit for, and you can pass it to them discreetly, then that sort of thing might be appropriate.
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If anyone should be saying something it should be him.
Let him come to you.
If he doesn't, ignore what happened.
answered 47 mins ago
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If anyone should be saying something it should be him.
Let him come to you.
If he doesn't, ignore what happened.
answered 47 mins ago
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If anyone should be saying something it should be him.
Let him come to you.
If he doesn't, ignore what happened.
answered 47 mins ago
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8,76042146
If anyone should be saying something it should be him.
Let him come to you.
If he doesn't, ignore what happened.
answered 47 mins ago
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answered 47 mins ago
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what is your relationship with manager? how long you've worked together
– aaaaaa
6 hours ago
1
3 years and we get along well enough, but we don't really discuss anything beyond my direct duties and the upcoming work.
– user100865
6 hours ago
is there anything you want to happen? i.e. would you be happier if both of you move to new corp?
– aaaaaa
6 hours ago
I hold no ill will towards him, he's a good dev and a decent manager, only a bit too passive. The reason I'm looking around is that it seems that I've reached a career dead end as the company is pivoting to a different operating model that will not require my specialized skills as much.
– user100865
6 hours ago
16
Aside: what a complete screw up by the hiring company's HR department.
– Philip Kendall
6 hours ago